I’m a gardener, so for me, this time of year is both fabulous and excruciating. I want to be in the garden every day when it’s not raining, but I can’t do that because of pesky things like work and other family and friend commitments. When I do carve out a couple of hours, it’s a balm. I lose myself out there, and Fred will call me in for dinner much as my mother used to do when we were kids playing outside until dark.
The excruciating part is knowing how much there is to be done. In Wintertime, I’m not in the yard a lot, but come Spring, I do a slow walk and in-depth inventory. Having recently completed it, this much I know: Weeds and plants that you don’t want are impossible to eradicate, and if you turn your back on them, they will attack in force. Bushes will outgrow their spaces (yes! I’m talking about you, Godazalea!), pretty little areas that were fine last year are no longer pretty or little, and fresh empty spots are begging for something new. And I want to do it all. Right now.
Friends, neighbors, and family tell us our yard is beautiful. I know it looks nice, but I’m not selling tickets for tours. Their insistence, however, has made me realize that I when I look at it, I don’t enjoy it for what I see, because my focus is on what still needs to be done.
I did the same thing when I was career carving and creating a sales territory. I rarely stopped to appreciate what I’d accomplished because I wanted more and didn’t think I should take time for reflection. I’m not that unusual. We’ve found that many business owners and sales representatives are Type A over-achievers who carry the same attitude. We say, “Wow! Your shop floor looks fantastic,” they say, “Not as good as it should be right now” or “These numbers are terrific,” and they say, “They were great two years ago. We need to get them there again,” etc., etc.
So as you’re doing your own world-building, try to be less like me and more like Fred. He always loves exactly where he is at any given point in time. His attitude: Could things be better? Sure! Things can always be better, and isn’t that possibility a great thing? And are things good right now? Yes. Yes they are. Let’s have a beer.
‘Scuse me. Gotta run. Sun’s out …
May 4, 2022